Answer important questions about holiday etiquette
Should I go to the office Christmas party? Should I give a gift to my colleague? Etiquette expert, “Mister Manners” himself Thomas Farley has some advice on what to do.
NEW YORK – The holidays are filled with happiness, joy, and sometimes complications, but there are some important questions to answer: Should I go to the office Christmas party? Should I give a gift to my colleague? Etiquette expert, “Mister Manners” himself Thomas Farley has some advice on what to do.
Should I go to my office Christmas party?
We’ve certainly had a break or respite for the past few years from the pandemic of the dreaded office party party this year, but they’re definitely back. And with that free time, our social skills are definitely going to get a little rusty. But my number one advice to anyone throwing a holiday party at the office, please GO (and) Don’t skip the party, you’re going to be considered an off-team player if you don’t show up to your party. holidays in the office. That doesn’t mean you have to be the first in and the last out, put in your time face to face, see the powers that be, get your team to see you, and then you can go out.
Should I give a gift to my colleague?
Here’s the interesting thing, although people might feel compelled to buy a gift for their boss, unless it’s a yearly habit that you’re all into. The only freebie that should really happen in an office is that the boss, especially if the boss (of) a small team, should get some sort of freebie for his team members, not the other way around. Thus, you do not curry favor with your boss by giving him a wonderful gift.
What about the swing this year due to inflation concerns?
We are all dealing with the stress of inflation right now. Everything costs more. If you can afford it, and you can’t, but if you can afford it, I highly recommend that wherever you traditionally tip the service workers in your life. So we’re talking about the dog-walking nanny, the hairdresser, the doorman, if you have a doorman in your building, whatever tip you’ve traditionally tipped them, you’re going to add the inflation rate on top of that that you gave last year or previous years. Now, if you don’t have that means, that’s OK too. But that doesn’t just mean you’re avoiding these individuals for the next three months, because you’re too embarrassed to confront them because you’re not hitting them. On the contrary, I would have a face-to-face conversation with them, I would still give them a card where you express your gratitude. Give them a small gift, a baking dish, or a pair of gloves, something that at least shows appreciation, and I’ll explain to them that it doesn’t at all represent my feelings about the service you’ve given me at every year. Finances are really tight for me. I hope for better times next year. In the meantime, it is a thank you that I would like to give you.
How about re-offering?
I’m a fan of r-donating as long as it’s not an act of desperation or cheapness, but rather that you do it strategically and thoughtfully. That way, you’re not going to re-gift something in the same gift circle where the person who gave it to you is going to see someone else open it as if it came from you. You will make sure to repack it with new. And you definitely want to make sure that this gift doesn’t have a story that you can’t rightfully own. So if it’s a nice souvenir that your friend brought you from his trip to Peru and you’ve never been to Peru, you don’t want to give this gift as if you had it because you don’t own this story. But as long as you give it to someone who you think will appreciate it much more than you do, that it suits them better than it was for you, then I think re-gifting is a great way to proceed.